3.8.1 Answers & Discussion- Crossing the Line

Pam has asked for your opinion and you need to respond. You don’t want to interfere with her relationship with her teacher, but you probably have some concerns about Aiden’s advice and the threat of bad karma if Pam doesn’t quit her job. Three communications need to take place: 1) Respond to the student’s question; 2) Give feedback to Aiden; and 3) Possibly raise concerns with EPS.​

A: Correct. First, respond to Pam that it would be best if she makes her own well-considered decision. As teachers we want students to learn to look within for answers, rather than to look to others for direction.​

D: Correct. As you are aware, Aiden frequently gives strong advice like this. Aiden has many students and is in a position to easily cause them harm, whether knowingly or not. You may contact EPS to explore the best way to address your concerns.​

E: Correct. Give respectful, honest feedback to Aiden about the importance of maintaining professional standards and why it appears he is not doing so (even though he may not welcome the information). Doing so is an important part of building a culture where feedback is respectfully given and received.

B and C: Incorrect. These are not helpful, and C would generate negativity rather than work toward bettering the situation.​

Note: This is not to suggest that a teacher should never give their students advice. Rather, the manner in which it is given is important and must empower students to make their own choices, and not feel pressured to do what their teacher suggests.